In 2014 I was invited to be part of a Desire Map book club. It changed my life. For the first time, I was told that I was allowed to be the adventurous free spirit that I am. That it is my birthright. That nothing is wrong with me because the very act of trying to achieve success by societies standards had left me feeling a little dead inside. I stopped chasing societal obligations, and start pursuing things that really made me happy.
This may sound very “well duh!” especially coming from someone who had worked as a professional dominatrix for most of her life. And in my own mind, up until that time, I thought I was doing what made me happy. But what I learned was that I was doing things to make others happy, and finding myself feeling hallow, rather then fulfilled afterwards – mainly, trying to find a “straight” job and a normal, acceptable career.
Danielle LaPorte’s book, The Desire Map, not only helped me see why I wasn’t achieving happiness, but how to find out what would make me happy, and also, how to get passed the fear and guilt I felt at changing my goals and actions to suit my needs and desires.
That’s why I signed up to be a Desire Map facilitator and that’s why I’m excited to work through the exercises with you. I will be offering occasional wellness and adventure retreats which will include Sex Positive Desire Mapping. I will also be offering occasional on-line group workshops which will combine sexual wellness and empowerment coaching with Desire Mapping. If you can’t wait for those to start and just need to move forward now, I do offer one on one facilitation as well.