Finding common ground between you and a new play partner doesn’t have to be difficult. Finding new games to play with a long time lover can be a fun way to get to know each other on a whole new level.
When I work as a professional dominatrix, I have clients fill out a questionnaire before I agree to meet them. It asks not only what activities they are interested in, but what they aren’t interested in as well. It lists many feelings and activities for the submissive to express interest in and a place to leave additional notes.
It’s a step by step guide to finding out what the person has done, what they want to do, and what experiences they’ve had in the past that might color our time together.